Dive into Fearlessness: How Conquering the Unknown Leads to Life-Changing Experiences
Last Updated: October 2024
I want you to really live your f*cking life to its fullest, with zero regrets.
This is why we need to be doing things that scare us, because how else can we learn, grow, and have real experiences? If we remain stable and comfortable, it can be much harder to reach our full potential.
Using Failure as a Value
There’s a lot of value in failure, honestly. I know that may be scary and hard to hear, but it’s the truth. You are only doing yourself a disservice when you don’t take risks solely because you are afraid of failure. Think of it in this way:
Everything always works in your favor.
There is always a reason why things take an unexpected direction, and understanding that can shift your perspective. Failures are a valuable lesson—learn from them, grow from them. Failure is just a detour to your destination, a temporary setback.
One thing about me, I’m not afraid to fail. Not that many things scare me. Obviously, I have my set of fears, but fear of failure doesn’t fall in that line. How will I learn without making mistakes?
I’ve had my set of failures. In college, I struggled academically at first—to the point where I thought I wouldn’t graduate on time. But that realization pushed me to rediscover my love of learning and prove to myself that I could turn things around. That’s how I found my passion for blogging.
Taking Advantage of the Words You Say to Yourself
Given my track record, I genuinely feared that I (1) wouldn’t graduate and (2) wouldn’t graduate with honors. But I had a vision: I wanted to graduate with a 4.0 GPA—very ambitious of me—considering I was averaging a B to C grade level.
I essentially manifested the sh*t out of my life. I would tell myself, every day, “I am graduating in spring 2022 with a 4.0 GPA.” Wherever there was space in my planner, I would write it down: “I am graduating in spring 2022, everything always works in my favor.”
At first, I wasn’t sure if the words I was saying were real, if what I was writing down was even real. But I had no choice. I had to believe it. There was no way that I wasn’t graduating in four years—not only for financial reasons, but I had set that goal since the beginning. Not believing in myself wasn’t an option.
After putting in the work, not only were things looking up, but I found my newfound love of learning. My hard work led me to this: blogging. I loved writing essays, especially academic essays, and it opened up a new path for me.
When it came to blogging, I had no idea what I was doing. Was I afraid to fail? Absolutely. Was I afraid of what people would think? Absolutely. Was I afraid that no one would read it? Absolutely.
But at the end of the day, I had to remember why it was important for my voice to be heard. I had to block out the noise and focus on my fulfillment, understanding that my voice is important and valuable. This is how I like to express myself, and if someone doesn’t like it or if no one even reads it, at least I know that I tried and put my all into it.
What I Learned about Self-Talk
You really have to rewire your brain—take advantage of your self-talk and understand that setbacks don’t define you. It’s all about how you react and how you decide to move forward.
You can use your setbacks as a learning experience, or you can be negative about it. I chose to use my setbacks as a learning experience, to spring me forward, rather than letting them drag me down. There’s always more than one way to react to anything. I encourage you to use the one that ends in: things always working in your favor.
This is all about how you speak to yourself. Unfortunately, it can be easier to feed into your negative thoughts, especially automatic negative thoughts or ANTs, which ultimately rewires your subconscious negatively.
Instead, try telling yourself every day: “everything always works in my favor” or “everything always works out for me,” you can even add “I’m so lucky, everything always works out for me,” because it truly works. Your subconscious repeats itself and that’s just exactly what’s going to happen.
Obviously, there’s work that needs to be done to get to that place of reaching your manifestations or goals. I didn’t just say those things to myself without putting in the work. Since I was telling this to myself every day, I had to find ways in order to make it true—whatever it took, honestly.
Take advantage of your subconscious and rewire it to believe that you can achieve anything you want, despite setbacks.
If you’re having trouble and continue to speak negatively about yourself, I also encourage you to switch your thoughts into the third person. For example, “I am going to fail” turns into “Kaels is going to fail” and just take a moment to think, why would someone say that about yourself? Think of yourself in positive terms—you deserve it. <3
Conclusion
Take those risks, step outside of your comfort zone, and don’t be afraid to fail. We have to really live and experience our lives, y’all! There’s value in everything that you do, and that goes with your reactions to your downfalls. We gotta have the downs to have the ups, let’s be real.
Elsa said it best: into the unknown.
xoxo,
kaels
too bad ain’t me<3
