The Second Coming: Is Second Puberty a Real Thing?

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updated: October 2024

I heard this on TikTok (LMAO), but someone was discussing how women in their early 20s, around twenty-three years old, go through a huge ‘rebirth.’ Some people were even calling it a “second puberty.”

Let me tell you, I feel like I’m in the midst of that happening, and it feels like—and I cannot emphasize this enough—what the f*ck.

Welcome to the Rebirth

In our early 20s, most of us are navigating a whole new chapter in our lives. Some of us may have just graduated from college, some may have just started college, some may be entering the workforce, and some may just be cruisin’ along the way. Whatever it may be, it’s a time for a lot of change and maturity. We’re starting to see the world through a new lens. I’m beginning to feel like a whole ass woman.

On TikTok, I heard someone mention that if you’re twenty-three, you’re technically a “three-year-old adult.” When placed into that perspective, it changes everything. We are new adults, just expected to figure all this sh*t out on our own—I mean, that’s how life goes, right? Personally, I’m just trying to navigate this as I go. But if I’m being honest, adults seemed more “adultier” when I was younger.

At this point, I feel stuck between wanting to figure out womanhood by myself and wanting some guidance. I find joy and satisfaction in learning and teaching myself, but it definitely feels like this is something where I need more support and direction.

Seeking Guidance in a New World

I want to surround myself with people who resemble who I want to be. This is where things get a little difficult.

I want to seek mentors who share my values and are living the lifestyle I aspire to. Why is it difficult? Bitch, I’m shy! I’m not one to just go up to someone and start talking, I’ll tell you that much.

So, how do I combat that? I don’t. This is why communities on the internet are so important. They provide a great platform and space for people to connect and learn from one another—you can seek exactly what you’re looking for, and the algorithms will be working in your favor. You can align your media consumption to match what you seek.

That’s what I want here. I want to bring together young adults who want the absolute best for themselves; who want to continue to learn and grow; who aspire to be their higher selves; who see their future beyond what it is now.

Shifting Into a New Era

Whenever I’m going through a huge shift or a new chapter in my life, I dive deep into self-reflection and self-evaluation. I really need to check in with myself, visualize where I want this next chapter to go, and figure out what my ultimate goal is.

Lately, I’ve noticed that my style is shifting. I’m over my current wardrobe—it’s mostly pieces from my previous era, and I can confidently say I am not that girl anymore. There are only a handful of items I actually like to wear: my basics (which is why basics are so important in your wardrobe, btw—check out my tips on elevating your closet here)!

The only other times I’ve craved a new wardrobe were when I was hitting a turning point in my life, so this can only mean one thing: new beginnings!

The Truth About the ‘Second Puberty’

So, is “second puberty” a real thing? Scientifically, no, but socially, yes! Things are kind of awkward; we’re learning more about ourselves, we’re wanting new clothes, we’re noticing changes—c’mon, that’s a little like puberty.

Anyways, it’s happening, and it’s difficult, but with self-love and self-reflection practices, it’s a little easier to get through.

Don’t forget, this time is yours—have fun, play around with your style, get to know yourself, take yourself on dates, meet new people, try new things, and put yourself out there. Do it all! This is truly prime time—our time—so let’s f*cking get it! But also, remember, it’s okay to have both ups and downs because in order to have ups, you gotta have the downs. It’s only up from here!!!

Here’s to always being bad b!tches, practicing self-love, and proving the haters wrong.

xoxo,
kaels
too bad ain’t me<3